alnair_tair | Musings: On Sex

Original post in my tumblr: alnair-tair.tumblr.com/post/178981631477/sometimes-i-think-about-how-we-shame-sex

sometimes i think about how we shame sex. specifically in stories. more even, when people compare a “pure” mental and/or spiritual connection to a completely romantic/sexual one and how almost always, they say the latter ones as inferiors to the formers. which really baffles me. why? why can’t two people have a meaningful soul-deep connection of understanding and not romance too? not love? why love is seen as being tainted by physical intimacy? when to my understanding when you get someone so well, when you understand each other so much you already love them. not ifs, not buts. you love them, and if the possibility of sexual or romantic attraction is there, then it is more than likely that’ll happen in these circumstances and it would only be the expression of a bond which is already there. because what, at least i, search in a partner is that connection. to be matches spiritually and mentally, to be able to be with each other the longest time possible and sex and romance are a part of that (for most). sex should be an activity practised mostly to connect and enjoy and find pleasure and share and to be able to trust and let go. when you are so in tune with another, when you love and are attracted to them, sex is simply another thing to connect the souls, to bring intimacy and communicate through feelings and acts and forget the world. not something to be ashamed of.

and that is something i had to say, in my inexperienced opinion xD not that sex should only be reserved for such life changings connections, but y’know, it must always be a positive thing to you and your partner(s). obviously lol. and it doesn’t harm anything as long as you are as careful with it as with everything else.